Intrusive thoughts are not things we actually want to do. If you do not actively want to sexually act on children and don’t experience sexual attraction to children. Intrusive thoughts are a mental health issue that are upsetting, other thoughts like murder, driving the car off the road, or other forms of sexual violence happen … Continue reading Question: Does having intrusive thoughts about children make me an abuser?
Diagnosis Primer: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Post Traumatic Disorder (PTSD) is a relatively common disorder in those who have experienced trauma. It includes much of the cultural assumptions of what trauma causes like flashbacks and reactions to reminders of the trauma. The depictions are often done with some real misinformation so hopefully, this will help flesh out how PTSD is understood … Continue reading Diagnosis Primer: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Advice: Telling people about the Abuse
Getting Started: Fear of how people will react to sharing stories of abuse is really common. Sharing our histories and reaching out for help is extremely hard, that’s normal. But it is healing and important to tell people what happened to move forward and find the support you need. A good place start is making … Continue reading Advice: Telling people about the Abuse
Media: Poems about Sexual Assault and Abuse
General rape and sexual assault trigger warning https://youtu.be/0Wu7Ax78hXo abuTrigger Warnings: Misogynistic slurs cw, street harassment cw, victim blaming cw,Alcohol mention , Drugs mention, https://youtu.be/j4m3AJamQYM Trigger Warnings: CSA cw, eating disorders cw, other forms of violence cw, feeding tubes mention, genital mention, misogynistic slurs, police mention, harsh language https://youtu.be/LoyfunmYIpU Trigger Warnings: Implied suicide cw, Victim blaming … Continue reading Media: Poems about Sexual Assault and Abuse
Informational Article: What is Gaslighting
What is Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a common form of emotional/psychological abuse and can be used as a tactic in grooming children for abuse. The term comes from Gaslight (1944) a movie where the technique is used by the characters. Gaslighting is sometimes also called "crazy making". Gaslighting is used to make the victim feel as … Continue reading Informational Article: What is Gaslighting
Question: How is it possible that the brain forgets abuse if its such a traumatizing event?
It’s because it’s traumatic that memories can be repressed, not in spite of. It’s not the same as saying you forget what you had for breakfast three days ago where your mind just never puts it in long term memory. Memories of trauma don’t go through the normal process of how the brain handles everyday things … Continue reading Question: How is it possible that the brain forgets abuse if its such a traumatizing event?
Media: Podcasts on Healing from Abuse and Trauma
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ph5N2GDUiT054TxkRFgRw The Place We Find Ourselves covers healing from developmental trauma with focous on child sexual abuse. Grounded in story healing, attachment theory and developmental trauma. Told from the perspective of the Christian faith tradition. I believe you can gain a lot in the science and stories of strength no matter your faith tradition or … Continue reading Media: Podcasts on Healing from Abuse and Trauma
Informational Article: Grooming, What is it?
Grooming is when someone builds a connection with someone to gain their trust for the purposes of sexual abuse, child porn production or sex trafficking. Grooming can be done in person and online.
Media: Playlists for Survivors
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2s89nRVQ3zSoqipw9jhB1j Playlist of inspiration songs for survivors. Taylord for female survivors https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4WmcCOo67heXFATobMSFnN Inspirational songs by all genders https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5sp11Op3NQQHDf80Xx7vvH Songs About child abuse and sexual violence. Major triggers throughout
Question: How do you Stop Mourning a Lost Childhood?
You don’t, not really. In complete honesty, the reason your grieving is because you have too. What is going to help you get over the pain is to let yourself feel sad, angry, scared, hurt,lost, depressed and so confused. It hurts like hell but healing is never pretty. It's good to think about someone who … Continue reading Question: How do you Stop Mourning a Lost Childhood?