Question: How Do I Stop Being Angry at My Parents for Not Protecting me?

You can’t stop being angry by forcing yourself to do it. In general, you can’t force emotions, of any kind. Anger makes sense and is important. Anger at your parents for not protecting you, is something really common for survivors rather it’s their direct fault, or they were oblivious, or just didn’t listen. Telling yourself … Continue reading Question: How Do I Stop Being Angry at My Parents for Not Protecting me?

Symptom Explainer: Why Abuse May Feel Unreal

Feeling like what happened to you isn’t real is a very common phenomenon with survivors of child sexual abuse. Here we will look at what fuels this sensation. Some of the main factors include poor memory, denial of trauma, personal downplaying of trauma, societal pressure, and emotional/psychological abuse. Poor memory of childhood trauma is often … Continue reading Symptom Explainer: Why Abuse May Feel Unreal

Questions: Can abuse be Traumatic if you were unaware is was abuse at the time?

Thinking abuse is normal, even how sex and relationships should work, is common with CSA survivors. Most children don’t understand if and/or why sexual abuse is wrong. Kids don’t have a frame of reference of normal sexual interaction and are generally told by their abuser this is normal, this how relationships should go. If the … Continue reading Questions: Can abuse be Traumatic if you were unaware is was abuse at the time?

Informational Article: Factors In Traumatization, Presentation of Trauma Symptoms, and Development of Mental Illness

This line of thinking can become a bit of a suffering contest putting some conditions, often DID/OSDD as the most traumatized with the only real trauma and the person who might not be suffering from a severe mental health condition didn’t go through anything, that isn’t true either. There is no gold star way to experience trauma and making a hierarchy of suffering helps no one.When looking at experiences of trauma survivors, understanding the way kids develop mental health conditions, and how we can best support healing for kids we need a larger view of all of this. 

Coping Skills: Ditch Value judgments

Placing value judgments may feel right in the moments either were upset with ourselves or we’ve been trained to see things as good or bad. When we stop judging everything and learn to view things with acceptance it improves our self-perception and makes it easier to move forward and even improve when we need to.

Question: How do you learn to let people love you?

It takes time to gather trust in other people when you have been abused. Fear is common and normal. Experiencing sexual urges as someone who is sex repulsed isn’t contradictory in all cases. Sexual trauma wrecks havoc on the experience of sexuality that survivors experience. Sex repulsion isn’t the same as never experiencing the attraction or … Continue reading Question: How do you learn to let people love you?