The Basics: Let’s start with the basic aspects you can frame healthy boundaries around. Your SpaceYou have the right to personal space, the basics of not having people touching you but also your room. You can have a personal bubble and have places in your home that are only yours. Space is important and hard for … Continue reading Advice: Healthy Boundaries
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Informational & Opinion Article: The Cycle of Abuse
The cycle of abuse needs to be understood as it really is, not as a fate for all victims, an excuse for perpetrators or catch-all explanations of the culture of abuse we live in.
Advice Post: How To Start Talking About Our Abuse Stories
Talking About Our Abuse Stories Putting Words to The Abuse: Drawing can be a good first step to allowing thoughts to be externalized. Music and dancing even can be a way to communicate the way the body and subconscious carry trauma in a way that words don’t always understand. Journaling is often a good way … Continue reading Advice Post: How To Start Talking About Our Abuse Stories
Advice: Telling people about the Abuse
Getting Started: Fear of how people will react to sharing stories of abuse is really common. Sharing our histories and reaching out for help is extremely hard, that’s normal. But it is healing and important to tell people what happened to move forward and find the support you need. A good place start is making … Continue reading Advice: Telling people about the Abuse
Informational Article: What is Gaslighting
What is Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a common form of emotional/psychological abuse and can be used as a tactic in grooming children for abuse. The term comes from Gaslight (1944) a movie where the technique is used by the characters. Gaslighting is sometimes also called "crazy making". Gaslighting is used to make the victim feel as … Continue reading Informational Article: What is Gaslighting
Question: How can I be brave enough to say the terms ‘rape’ and shared details of trauma?
You can write about it put the details on paper. You don’t have to share all of those details with people but it can help it feel less bottled up and more acceptable to say if you have made it real on paper. After writing you can try saying rape and other specifics to yourself. … Continue reading Question: How can I be brave enough to say the terms ‘rape’ and shared details of trauma?
For Loved Ones: Supporting Someone Who is A CSA Survivor
Originally Posted on Tumblr Often times when someone learns someone they care about has gone through CSA it can feel overwhelming. They go through a lot of emotions and can struggle to understand what to do next. If you’re in that situation, or you are a survivor who has someone in your life you want … Continue reading For Loved Ones: Supporting Someone Who is A CSA Survivor
Coping Skills: Healing A Relationship With Sex After Sexual Abuse
This post is going to focus on our relationship mainly with the concept of sex, masturbation and partner sex. Sexual violence at any age will affect the way the victim of the violence relates to sex. This is heightened with trauma at exceptionally young ages as the survivors never developed a relationship to sex in … Continue reading Coping Skills: Healing A Relationship With Sex After Sexual Abuse
Informational Article: Factors In Traumatization, Presentation of Trauma Symptoms, and Development of Mental Illness
This line of thinking can become a bit of a suffering contest putting some conditions, often DID/OSDD as the most traumatized with the only real trauma and the person who might not be suffering from a severe mental health condition didn’t go through anything, that isn’t true either. There is no gold star way to experience trauma and making a hierarchy of suffering helps no one.When looking at experiences of trauma survivors, understanding the way kids develop mental health conditions, and how we can best support healing for kids we need a larger view of all of this.
Informational Article: What is Consent?
Consent is an agreement to do something. Consent is imperative in life and if it is not present in a sexual situation then it is sexual assault. What Consent Is: Informed: Every one must know what they are getting into.Free: No one can be under any duress or manipulation.Enthusiastic: Everyone must want to be doing it.Ongoing: Consent … Continue reading Informational Article: What is Consent?
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