Feeling like what happened to you isn’t real is a very common phenomenon with survivors of child sexual abuse. Here we will look at what fuels this sensation. Some of the main factors include poor memory, denial of trauma, personal downplaying of trauma, societal pressure, and emotional/psychological abuse. Poor memory of childhood trauma is often … Continue reading Symptom Explainer: Why Abuse May Feel Unreal
Coping Skills: Sensory Aids
Sensory Aids sometime might be called sensory toys or stim toys, are objects that calm people down via acting on the senses to affect the nervous systems in stress states. These can help with anxiety, hyperarousal symptoms (from PTSD/C-PTSD), fibromyalgia, Autism, ADHD, Sensory processing disorder, Chronic Fatigue and anyone else who experiences problems related to … Continue reading Coping Skills: Sensory Aids
Question: How can I be brave enough to say the terms ‘rape’ and shared details of trauma?
You can write about it put the details on paper. You don’t have to share all of those details with people but it can help it feel less bottled up and more acceptable to say if you have made it real on paper. After writing you can try saying rape and other specifics to yourself. … Continue reading Question: How can I be brave enough to say the terms ‘rape’ and shared details of trauma?
For Loved Ones: Supporting Someone Who is A CSA Survivor
Originally Posted on Tumblr Often times when someone learns someone they care about has gone through CSA it can feel overwhelming. They go through a lot of emotions and can struggle to understand what to do next. If you’re in that situation, or you are a survivor who has someone in your life you want … Continue reading For Loved Ones: Supporting Someone Who is A CSA Survivor
Coping Skills: Healing A Relationship With Sex After Sexual Abuse
This post is going to focus on our relationship mainly with the concept of sex, masturbation and partner sex. Sexual violence at any age will affect the way the victim of the violence relates to sex. This is heightened with trauma at exceptionally young ages as the survivors never developed a relationship to sex in … Continue reading Coping Skills: Healing A Relationship With Sex After Sexual Abuse
Coping Skills: Dealing with Intrusive Thoughts
Intrusive thoughts are unwanted thoughts that intrude into the thoughts process of those who deal with them. They are commonly associated with OCD, PTSD, eating disorders, addiction and self-harm. Intrusive thoughts are not just thoughts that seem random or unskilled (that called thinking), and they aren’t always accompanied by the urge do something (compulsions). They … Continue reading Coping Skills: Dealing with Intrusive Thoughts
Coping Skills: Ditch Value judgments
Placing value judgments may feel right in the moments either were upset with ourselves or we’ve been trained to see things as good or bad. When we stop judging everything and learn to view things with acceptance it improves our self-perception and makes it easier to move forward and even improve when we need to.
Coping Skills: Combating Self-Harm Urges
Self-harm urges can be so strong and are very hard to deal with, but we can work against them to better-coping skills. Self-harm, self-mutilation or self-injury comes in multiple forms not just cutting that is normally discussed. Examples include compulsive masturbation, burning, hitting yourself against things, excessive scratching to the point of drawing blood, punching self … Continue reading Coping Skills: Combating Self-Harm Urges
Symptom Explainer: Anger from abuse, and ways to handle it
Hey! Trouble dealing with anger is common as there is often a lot of anger associated with the abuse in the first place. Anger at abusers, yourself and/or people who never protected them are common for many abuse survivours. Another factor is if you never learned to cope with anger as a kid, which is … Continue reading Symptom Explainer: Anger from abuse, and ways to handle it
Coping Skills Masterposts: Self-Care
This is a master post of sorts of self-care advice. As always our advice is based a lot around CSA survivors, but this info is helpful for anyone struggling. Here we go: Make sure you’re hydrated. Keep water (or another drink) with you all the time. Eat food. Make sure you are eating and not … Continue reading Coping Skills Masterposts: Self-Care