The cycle of abuse needs to be understood as it really is, not as a fate for all victims, an excuse for perpetrators or catch-all explanations of the culture of abuse we live in.
Informational Article: Attachment Theory (Pt 2)
Understanding attachment can help people understand why they are dealing with what they are and to make sense of specific experiences with our caregivers and abusers (for many of us these are the same person) Attachment theory can help people know what is making relationships so hard and begin to address what it is and form better relationships going forward. Knowing it's a piece of other mental health struggles can also help be a piece in recovering from DID, BPD, or C-PTSD. It gives us words to explain our struggles and find others dealing with similar.
Informational Article: Attachment Theory (Pt 1)
Attachment theory is a bedrock of our current understanding of child development in their ability to form relationships, have a stable affect, understand emotions and self-sooth. It is one of the earliest and most important stages of development when talking about emotions and relationships.
Symptom Explainer: Flashbacks VS Intrusive Thoughts
Let's look at what each of these experiences is and where they come from. Then we will compare & contrast them. Flashbacks: A flashback is an experience where you relive events of trauma. Flashbacks are only found in those with PTSD & C-PTSD. It includes feeling sensations that were experienced during the traumatic event. These … Continue reading Symptom Explainer: Flashbacks VS Intrusive Thoughts
Question: Does having intrusive thoughts about children make me an abuser?
Intrusive thoughts are not things we actually want to do. If you do not actively want to sexually act on children and don’t experience sexual attraction to children. Intrusive thoughts are a mental health issue that are upsetting, other thoughts like murder, driving the car off the road, or other forms of sexual violence happen … Continue reading Question: Does having intrusive thoughts about children make me an abuser?
Media: Poems about Sexual Assault and Abuse
General rape and sexual assault trigger warning https://youtu.be/0Wu7Ax78hXo abuTrigger Warnings: Misogynistic slurs cw, street harassment cw, victim blaming cw,Alcohol mention , Drugs mention, https://youtu.be/j4m3AJamQYM Trigger Warnings: CSA cw, eating disorders cw, other forms of violence cw, feeding tubes mention, genital mention, misogynistic slurs, police mention, harsh language https://youtu.be/LoyfunmYIpU Trigger Warnings: Implied suicide cw, Victim blaming … Continue reading Media: Poems about Sexual Assault and Abuse
Informational Article: What is Gaslighting
What is Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a common form of emotional/psychological abuse and can be used as a tactic in grooming children for abuse. The term comes from Gaslight (1944) a movie where the technique is used by the characters. Gaslighting is sometimes also called "crazy making". Gaslighting is used to make the victim feel as … Continue reading Informational Article: What is Gaslighting
Informational Article: Grooming, What is it?
Grooming is when someone builds a connection with someone to gain their trust for the purposes of sexual abuse, child porn production or sex trafficking. Grooming can be done in person and online.
Media: Playlists for Survivors
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2s89nRVQ3zSoqipw9jhB1j Playlist of inspiration songs for survivors. Taylord for female survivors https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4WmcCOo67heXFATobMSFnN Inspirational songs by all genders https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5sp11Op3NQQHDf80Xx7vvH Songs About child abuse and sexual violence. Major triggers throughout
Question: How do you Stop Mourning a Lost Childhood?
You don’t, not really. In complete honesty, the reason your grieving is because you have too. What is going to help you get over the pain is to let yourself feel sad, angry, scared, hurt,lost, depressed and so confused. It hurts like hell but healing is never pretty. It's good to think about someone who … Continue reading Question: How do you Stop Mourning a Lost Childhood?