The Basics: Let’s start with the basic aspects you can frame healthy boundaries around. Your SpaceYou have the right to personal space, the basics of not having people touching you but also your room. You can have a personal bubble and have places in your home that are only yours. Space is important and hard for … Continue reading Advice: Healthy Boundaries
Symptom Explainer: Dissociation
Defining Dissociation General Dissociation: Dissociation refers to the natural mechanism our brain has to disconnect us from our surroundings and ourselves. This is sometimes as a benign reaction but severe dissociation is associated with trauma and other mental illnesses. Every Person has the capacity for dissociation and many experiences some degree of the skill like … Continue reading Symptom Explainer: Dissociation
The False Memory Myth & Memory Repression
A common question we've got is people asking if their memories are "real" if they "made it up" and similar concerns. This is distressing to us because it comes from a place of not only misinformation but the effects of a deep culture of victim-blaming, the denial of sexual abuse and dates back to truly … Continue reading The False Memory Myth & Memory Repression
Diagnosis Primer: Borderline Personality Disorder
Criterion, aetiology, relations to other conditions, connections to trauma and neurology. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), Also known as Emotional Unstable Personality Disorder (EUPD) is a personality disorder that affects identity, impulse control, relational issues and emotional understanding. In the general population, there is a diagnosis rate of 1.6-2.7%. (Lenzenweger, Lane, Loranger, & Kessler 2007; Tomoko, … Continue reading Diagnosis Primer: Borderline Personality Disorder
Informational & Opinion Article: The Cycle of Abuse
The cycle of abuse needs to be understood as it really is, not as a fate for all victims, an excuse for perpetrators or catch-all explanations of the culture of abuse we live in.
Informational Article: Why Survivors Miss Abuse
Survivors of abuse and IPV may miss it after it ends or crave acts of sexual violence. Those of us who may miss aspects of our abuse often feel like we wanted the abuse, deserved it or will only ever be abused. But we never deserved to be abused, we never wanted it, there are … Continue reading Informational Article: Why Survivors Miss Abuse
Advice Post: How To Start Talking About Our Abuse Stories
Talking About Our Abuse Stories Putting Words to The Abuse: Drawing can be a good first step to allowing thoughts to be externalized. Music and dancing even can be a way to communicate the way the body and subconscious carry trauma in a way that words don’t always understand. Journaling is often a good way … Continue reading Advice Post: How To Start Talking About Our Abuse Stories
Coping Skills: Help With Sleep
Trouble sleeping can be helped and we can work to promote healthy rest and counteract the insomnia abuse often induces. There is no sure-fire way to end insomnia, and professional may need to be involved as a lack of sleep can cause real health issues. No one-trick will fic but you can work with you're … Continue reading Coping Skills: Help With Sleep
Community Project: No Perfect Victim
We are working on a community-wide project across platforms. We are calling it the “No Perfect Victim” project. So the idea is to break down the stereotypes and misinformation that people have about survivors. One of our own community sent asks about their own experiences as a CSA survivor who feels like they don’t fit what … Continue reading Community Project: No Perfect Victim
Informational Article: Attachment Theory (Pt 2)
Understanding attachment can help people understand why they are dealing with what they are and to make sense of specific experiences with our caregivers and abusers (for many of us these are the same person) Attachment theory can help people know what is making relationships so hard and begin to address what it is and form better relationships going forward. Knowing it's a piece of other mental health struggles can also help be a piece in recovering from DID, BPD, or C-PTSD. It gives us words to explain our struggles and find others dealing with similar.
Survivors Healing Survivors 