The cycle of abuse needs to be understood as it really is, not as a fate for all victims, an excuse for perpetrators or catch-all explanations of the culture of abuse we live in.
Informational Article: Why Survivors Miss Abuse
Survivors of abuse and IPV may miss it after it ends or crave acts of sexual violence. Those of us who may miss aspects of our abuse often feel like we wanted the abuse, deserved it or will only ever be abused. But we never deserved to be abused, we never wanted it, there are … Continue reading Informational Article: Why Survivors Miss Abuse
Advice Post: How To Start Talking About Our Abuse Stories
Talking About Our Abuse Stories Putting Words to The Abuse: Drawing can be a good first step to allowing thoughts to be externalized. Music and dancing even can be a way to communicate the way the body and subconscious carry trauma in a way that words don’t always understand. Journaling is often a good way … Continue reading Advice Post: How To Start Talking About Our Abuse Stories
Coping Skills: Help With Sleep
Trouble sleeping can be helped and we can work to promote healthy rest and counteract the insomnia abuse often induces. There is no sure-fire way to end insomnia, and professional may need to be involved as a lack of sleep can cause real health issues. No one-trick will fic but you can work with you're … Continue reading Coping Skills: Help With Sleep
Community Project: No Perfect Victim
We are working on a community-wide project across platforms. We are calling it the “No Perfect Victim” project. So the idea is to break down the stereotypes and misinformation that people have about survivors. One of our own community sent asks about their own experiences as a CSA survivor who feels like they don’t fit what … Continue reading Community Project: No Perfect Victim
Informational Article: Attachment Theory (Pt 2)
Understanding attachment can help people understand why they are dealing with what they are and to make sense of specific experiences with our caregivers and abusers (for many of us these are the same person) Attachment theory can help people know what is making relationships so hard and begin to address what it is and form better relationships going forward. Knowing it's a piece of other mental health struggles can also help be a piece in recovering from DID, BPD, or C-PTSD. It gives us words to explain our struggles and find others dealing with similar.
Informational Article: Attachment Theory (Pt 1)
Attachment theory is a bedrock of our current understanding of child development in their ability to form relationships, have a stable affect, understand emotions and self-sooth. It is one of the earliest and most important stages of development when talking about emotions and relationships.
Symptom Explainer: Flashbacks VS Intrusive Thoughts
Let's look at what each of these experiences is and where they come from. Then we will compare & contrast them. Flashbacks: A flashback is an experience where you relive events of trauma. Flashbacks are only found in those with PTSD & C-PTSD. It includes feeling sensations that were experienced during the traumatic event. These … Continue reading Symptom Explainer: Flashbacks VS Intrusive Thoughts
Informational Article: Being Our Whole Selves Brain & Body
Our culture has a huge problem with separating and atomizing us. This has a huge effect on the general world and an outsized effect on the recovery trauma, I also see a huge impact of eating disorder recovery (there is a high overlap in trauma survivors and disordered eating). We are told that our body … Continue reading Informational Article: Being Our Whole Selves Brain & Body
Question: Does having intrusive thoughts about children make me an abuser?
Intrusive thoughts are not things we actually want to do. If you do not actively want to sexually act on children and don’t experience sexual attraction to children. Intrusive thoughts are a mental health issue that are upsetting, other thoughts like murder, driving the car off the road, or other forms of sexual violence happen … Continue reading Question: Does having intrusive thoughts about children make me an abuser?
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