A list of songs about CSA, rape, child abuse, and domestic violence. Listening to stories and other peoples stories of abuse can bring feelings of solace and belonging. Remember to watch/listen to any possible triggering content with safety in mind. CSA Specific: note: general CSA cw Battle Cry-Angel Haze ft. SiaRazorblade-Blue October (cw: self-harm)Holy Water-Big … Continue reading Media: Songs about Sexual Abuse
Informational Article: Trauma Bonding
Trauma bonding is a way to understand patterns of abusive behaviour and how that affects the neurochemistry of the victims, and how that, in turn, relates to how the people in the relationship bond with the abuser. This helps survivors understand why they can miss abusive relationships and why they continued to love their abusers … Continue reading Informational Article: Trauma Bonding
Question: How Do I Stop Being Angry at My Parents for Not Protecting me?
You can’t stop being angry by forcing yourself to do it. In general, you can’t force emotions, of any kind. Anger makes sense and is important. Anger at your parents for not protecting you, is something really common for survivors rather it’s their direct fault, or they were oblivious, or just didn’t listen. Telling yourself … Continue reading Question: How Do I Stop Being Angry at My Parents for Not Protecting me?
Symptom Explainer: Why Symptoms sometimes worsen overtime
Trauma itself did affect you at the time of abuse, on a neurological level. Trauma, especially childhood trauma, reworks brain development. Trauma changes the size and development of sections our brains. Knocks our neurotransmitters, endocrine systems and the sympathetic nervous system out of whack (other changes as well). Symptomatology can vary between people and throughout … Continue reading Symptom Explainer: Why Symptoms sometimes worsen overtime
Symptom Explainer: Why Abuse May Feel Unreal
Feeling like what happened to you isn’t real is a very common phenomenon with survivors of child sexual abuse. Here we will look at what fuels this sensation. Some of the main factors include poor memory, denial of trauma, personal downplaying of trauma, societal pressure, and emotional/psychological abuse. Poor memory of childhood trauma is often … Continue reading Symptom Explainer: Why Abuse May Feel Unreal
Informational Article: Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn
We’ve all heard of the “Fight or Flight Response”. When looking at the physiology this is the sympathetic nervous system response. The sympathetic nervous system is part of the autonomic nervous system, the involuntary functions of the nervous system. It is the way our bodies handle input that we read as fighting and/or a threat.
Questions: Can abuse be Traumatic if you were unaware is was abuse at the time?
Thinking abuse is normal, even how sex and relationships should work, is common with CSA survivors. Most children don’t understand if and/or why sexual abuse is wrong. Kids don’t have a frame of reference of normal sexual interaction and are generally told by their abuser this is normal, this how relationships should go. If the … Continue reading Questions: Can abuse be Traumatic if you were unaware is was abuse at the time?
Coping Skills: Sensory Aids
Sensory Aids sometime might be called sensory toys or stim toys, are objects that calm people down via acting on the senses to affect the nervous systems in stress states. These can help with anxiety, hyperarousal symptoms (from PTSD/C-PTSD), fibromyalgia, Autism, ADHD, Sensory processing disorder, Chronic Fatigue and anyone else who experiences problems related to … Continue reading Coping Skills: Sensory Aids
Symptom Explainers: Flashbacks
What are Flashbacks? Flashbacks are a psychological phenomena during which a person relives a past event or fragments of a past experience. They generally occur involuntarily, abruptly entering a person’s minds without the aid of premeditation or conscious attempts to recall the memory. They can be extremely intense. As flashbacks involve past events, they may … Continue reading Symptom Explainers: Flashbacks
Informational Article: Childhood Trauma and Physical Health
We can Create systems of care for ourselves that understands all parts of our lives are connected and important. That view makes life make so much more sense, and I hope that going forward we can wok to make a world that treats our health as interconnected and important.
Survivors Healing Survivors 